10 Ways Facebook is Ruining Your Life
On February 4, Facebook will be only 12 years old. By the end of 2015, it had over 1.5 billion users. To put that in perspective, if you placed all of us together, we would be the largest country in the world, with China in second place with 1.3 billion. It is an amazing development in our modern culture.
But, I would maintain that Facebook is ruining many of our lives. Other social media platforms like Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram are helping to do the same. Here are the reasons why:
- Sympathy baiting. You are using Facebook to get sympathy from friends and strangers rather than facing the minor or major problems of life. Posting about our sinus infections (I’m guilty), flat tires, and other normal problems of life become an opportunity for whining rather than tackling the issue.
- Jealousy. Seeing everyone else’s moments, pictures, and posts, you’ve become jealous of their seemingly more fulfilling lives. Contentment over our good lives becomes an unreasonable expectation. We need more of what others have and are experiencing.
- Lying. Many people are straight-up lying about their lives. It is too easy to hide behind the digital realm and just stretch the truth.
- Laziness. Having spent too many hours of the day on Facebook, we neglect the real responsibilities and opportunities life has to offer.
- Deception. Sure there are some trolls that do it on purpose but most are just reposting false reports and skewed statistics. You may not be doing it on purpose but when you share that story from a less-than credible source, you just help spread deception.
- Old wounds. Remember that person who rejected you in college? Just a quick search on Facebook and you can scroll through the last few years of their life in posts and pictures. All that’s happened is the dredging up of old wounds that had healed.
- Hatefulness. We say things on the web that we’d never dare to say to someone in person. Social media allows you to spew a vile opinion with no accountability. It is bad for the soul.
- Plasticized lives. Not wanting anyone to know how bad things are for you, Facebook allows you to state to the world how everything is turning up roses. When, in fact, you need real, human help.
- Unrealistic expectations. Not everyone does the same thing or lives the same adventures. Facebook makes it seem, however, that if one of my friends starts mountain biking the black diamond, death-trap trails, then I’ve got to do the same. Better find my insurance card.
- Angry debates. Finding someone with whom you disagree is easy to do in normal life. Social media makes it even easier with trends and hashtags. Suddenly, we enter into vicious conversations online with people we don’t know and will never meet in person.
The responsibility truly lies on our own shoulders. We need to recognize that Facebook and its digital siblings are only platforms for our character. They can be forces for great good. To do so will take a lot less self-centeredness and lot more concern for others.