I’ve served on church staff or in some ministry role since 1989. In the beginning, it was internships and part-time positions. Over the last decade, it has been a combination of full-time, bivocational, publishing, and network agency ministry. It’s been hard and good and tough and beautiful.
It’s also been lonely. Often, it’s been painfully lonely.
As I write this, it is the week after Easter 2019. Just a few days ago, pastors experienced the largest attendance that many of them will see all year. Church planters launched into weekly ministry after months of preview services. Pastors of established churches saw the possibility of what can happen if everyone will put their hand to the plow. It was beautiful… until Monday morning arrived.
Then it was back to the grind. And that’s okay because ministry is hard work. All ministers know it is true. But for some reason, in the midst of calling church members to deepen their relationship to Christ and His church, pastors often live in seclusion from everyone else. I could list a bunch of reasons why but others have already diagnosed the various ailments and maladies in our lives that cause this loner mentality. Instead, I want to offer one answer:
Call your pastor friends.
Be the person who makes the call. Too often, we sit alone to stew over what was, should have been, or could be. Today, make a better choice. Whether you are celebrating or mourning, make the call. Be the one who reaches out. When you do, say one or both of these things to your pastor friend:
- I just wanted to call and encourage you.
- I’m struggling and need some encouragement.
Either one or both is fine. They are both necessary. Stop what you are doing and hit the Call button. You need it. Your pastor friend needs it. Make the call.